Stop Asking For Feedback The Wrong Way
2026-08-11
A senior leader wraps up a conversation and asks what they can do for you. You reach for the question you've been taught to ask. Where can I improve, and what are my blind spots?
It feels like the responsible thing to say. But that question does something to the person across from you that you don't see happening in the moment, and by the time you realize it, the impression is already set.
There's a specific swap that changes what someone walks away thinking about you, and once you hear it, you'll notice how often you've been doing the opposite.
In this episode, I'll cover:
The real reason that "blind spots" question works against you
A better question to ask when someone offers to help you grow
How to be intentional about who you ask, and when
It feels like the responsible thing to say. But that question does something to the person across from you that you don't see happening in the moment, and by the time you realize it, the impression is already set.
There's a specific swap that changes what someone walks away thinking about you, and once you hear it, you'll notice how often you've been doing the opposite.
In this episode, I'll cover:
The real reason that "blind spots" question works against you
A better question to ask when someone offers to help you grow
How to be intentional about who you ask, and when
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Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation
Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation
Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
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