Why "You're So Confusing" Became the Best Feedback I Got
2026-09-08
"You're really confusing." That's what my boss told me one day, out of nowhere, with no explanation or context.
I spent weeks questioning whether I was even good at my job. Then I watched someone else say almost the exact same thing to her, and she understood it instantly. The problem was never how smart I was. It was how I set her up to hear it.
This week I'm breaking down what changed once I saw that difference, and why framing the way people hear you decides whether you get what you want.
In this episode, I'll cover:
Recognize why confusion isn't about intelligence, it's about missing context
Set up your ideas so people can actually follow you
Ask a real question at the end that keeps you in control of where the conversation goes
I spent weeks questioning whether I was even good at my job. Then I watched someone else say almost the exact same thing to her, and she understood it instantly. The problem was never how smart I was. It was how I set her up to hear it.
This week I'm breaking down what changed once I saw that difference, and why framing the way people hear you decides whether you get what you want.
In this episode, I'll cover:
Recognize why confusion isn't about intelligence, it's about missing context
Set up your ideas so people can actually follow you
Ask a real question at the end that keeps you in control of where the conversation goes
🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward?
Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting
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📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation
Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training
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Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting
_____________________
🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation
Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
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